I have always loved music. When I say love, I mean that I absolutely melt inside when I hear a good tune. I don’t know how anyone else feels when they listen to a song but I know what happens to me.. when the melody first hits my ears, my stomach tightens, my neck grows a little bit longer, chills flood the entire surface of my body, and whatever mood i was previously in has changed to an entirely new experience. I get in the groove and find myself sucked into the speakers. Sometimes its the lyrics, other times its the drums, guitar, the song as a whole, or just the voice of the singer that reaches my core and sends shivers up my spine. Because of my love for music I have been to my fair share of shows, from hardcore bands, no namers, to Janet Jackson to Brittany Spears. You name it, I’ve loved it all and listened to it all. At some point my love for music extended into my love for singers. Theres something about a man singing on stage in front of a room full of people that draws me in. Possibly its the vulnerability in exposing one’s voice that makes it so appealing. Maybe its the fantasy or the character they turn into while performing. Quite possibly its the courage it takes to belt out a tune, write your own song, and fearlessly share it with thousands of critics. I don’t necessarily know what it is, but its a gift to listen to and its beautiful.
In college we once had a speaker come share on “how to find your match”. I remember sitting in my seat, shivering cold, listening intently for something, at least one thing that could come out of this lady’s mouth that might possibly interest me. To my surprise she shared something truly valuable. She told us to write a list.
“This list will have three columns. In each column you will be thinking about things that you value, things that are important to you, your family, and for your future. You will be thinking about the man that will possess the qualities that you need and are searching for in partner, a lover, and a best friend. In the first column I want you to write all the ‘things’ he HAS to have, no if, ands, or buts. In the second column write in all the ‘things’ you would really really like him to have. In the third column write in all of the ‘things’ you would absolutely love for him to have if you lived in a perfect world and could have every wish come true, but he doesn’t have to have these, it would just be extra nice if he did”.
The story the lady shared was so profound that i went straight home and wrote my list. This list included every detail I could possibly think of for what I wanted in the person who would eventually become my husband one day. The first column included things like, “he MUST be a believer in Jesus Christ, he MUST love my family, he MUST be close with his family and love them if they are still alive, he MUST be smart, he MUST be outgoing, he MUST like to have fun..etc etc”. The second column included things like, “I would love it if he liked to exercise”, I would love if he enjoyed watching movies, I would love it if he was romantic, I would love it if he wants to have at least 3 kids, I would love it if he loves music, I would love it if he has good hygiene..etc etc”. The third column listed things like, “It would be nice if he came from a big family also”, it would be nice if he plays sports, it would be nice if he enjoys food like i do, it would be nice if he was a singer..etc etc”.
Did you catch that?! I enjoy watching singers and listening to people make music enough so that I decided to add it to the list of my dream man. Fast forward 2 years and I met my dream man. He possessed every quality on my list of dreaminess, singer included. In fact, he surpassed the list I created. He showed me the man that God created for me, the man that I truly yearned for. A man endowed with qualities I never knew I needed or ever wanted. He helps me remember that God hold’s the plan for our lives and I see this every day when I look at my beloved music man.